"I Had a Baby": Three First Steps in Healing Birth Trauma
Over many years of practice, I developed an approach to help families heal from difficult births. Our training program for professionals addresses the layers of experience a family has when getting pregnant, carrying a baby, birthing and after the baby is born.
Our program has been so successful, we wrote an ebook that can help you get started healing right away. We recommend an appointment with Kate, a member of her teaching team, or one of her graduates or colleages. The three steps are outlined below and are in the attached pdf.
Online Ebook: "I Had a Baby": Three Steps in Healing Difficult Births
Step One: Map Out Your Strengths and Layers of Support
Step Two: Write It Down
After you have mapped out your resources in the layers of experiences, the next step is to write down your birth story, especially the negative parts. We have found that women will carry their birth stories their whole lives, some women never talking about the most painful parts. It is a huge weight.
Step Three: The Holding Healing Story and Messages of Repair
Families need a way to make sense of what has happened. My experience has been that much of the time it is not possible to assign responsibility for the difficulties that happen during births. Therefore, I work with you to create the space for that kind of repair. When you come, I affirm the challenge and say messages that providers sometimes need to say: "I'm sorry." "That was not okay." "That was very challenging, and you are a hero." "Your birth was a triumph." Because it was. All births are triumphs and an amazing testimony of our human spirit and commitment to life.
Enjoy our Ebook. It has video explanations of seeing a baby tell their story and how to make messages of repair. You can download the pdf here.